Being happy in your life is not about what happens to you but how you respond to those events - whether you're a glass-half-empty or a half-full kind of person.
When you feel optimistic and energised, your positive vibe works like a magnet attracting good people, useful resources, opportunities and optimum circumstances to you.
We all have great talents and skills that can help us create the life that we want. But more importantly, we have ability to change our attitude towards ourselves so that we feel successful, worthy and valid whether we're going through a rough patch of flying high.
It may sound deceptively easy but that's the beauty of taking control of how you think. It's simple, effective and once you start doing it you will feel better immediately. The trick is to get out of your head.
Utilise the following techniques to think, obses and despair a whole lot less and start experiencing the world through your senses not just your mind.
1. TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR THOUGHTS
Imagine if you never had to worry again about whether : your date thought you said something clueless over dinner; your friends think you're high maintenance or; complete strangers think you look fat in a particular outfit. Well, you don't. Starting right now make a deal with yourself not to let those nagging self-doubts bother you any more. If you trust in your own judgement and respect your own decisions and viewpoint you give less weight to what other think. Once you stop agonising over what other people are thinking you will find that all your self doubts, concerns about being judge and fears of rejection lose their power over you and fade away.
HOW TO DEAL :
STOP THINKING YOU ARE ON CENTRE STAGE OF EVRYONE"S LIFE. remind yourself they are too busy thinking about their own needs, day-to-day commitments and future goals to obsess about every little thing you say and do. This will help you overcome your habbit of second guessing what others are thinking and then making yourself miserable and vulnerable by imagining they are judging you harshly when they're most likely not particularly thinking anything about you at all.
2. GIVE YOUR SEKF A BREAK
'He won't call back because I'm so boring." "Why bother going for the job, I'm hopeless at interviews". "My clothes all looks awful because my stomach is not flat enough." This kind of self-talk is the stuffs that unhappiness is made of. It is unkind, untrue, and just plain unhelpful. No wonder you feel miserable when you're so unkind to your self. Stop it right now and start treating yourself with the respect you deserve and give to others.
HOW TO DEAL :
REALISE THAT YOUR THOUGHTS CREATE YOUR LIFE AND THAT YOU CREATE YOUR THOUGHT.
Ask yourself what else you could choose to think, feel and say about your sefl as situation arise so that you feel more confident and appealing. Consciously start reacting to things with different kinds of thoughts that are less blaming and more self-supportive, relaxed, hopeful and positive. Once your happier thinking style becomes a habbit your worries will start to lose their grip on your life - leaving your mind free to focus on the things that bring you happiness, comfort and enjoyment.
NOTICE WHNENEVER YOUR INNER VOICE PUTS YOU DOWN.
You'll probably be shocked to realise just how mush you are charater-assassinating your self 24/7. To make your self-talk more self-affirming, stop exaggerating things you have done, thinking in extremes, accentuating the negative and having unrealistic expectation about what you should look like/achieve/feel like.
